This whole Google Flu Trends thing got me thinking.
Sometimes I feel a little more canine than human. Well, I guess it’s not necessarily that I feel more like another species, but it behave a little more like one whenever I am ill. How, you ask? Allow me to explain.
When I first started dating Kevin there was something that I had to make clear from the start. When I am sick I want to be alone. Much like a dog (or a cow or some kind of herd animal) I pull away from the crowd whenever I am feeling ill. Not sure if it’s nature’s way of keeping me from passing things on to others or if it’s the way that I am wired. It has nothing to do with vanity, as he saw me in PJ pants and a hoodie before we were even dating (remember that time you came over after I had put up my Christmas tree and we sat on opposite ends of the couch and talked for like 2 hours?). And when I am sick I have no problem going to Wal-mart or a drug store to pick up necessities (operative word) with my hair in a bun, wearing sweatpants and an XXL shirt I received for free my freshman year of college when I signed up for a credit card (that was never used, mind you). Or even in a jacket covered in muddy dog prints that I didn’t realize was covered in muddy dog prints until I was standing behind some blond co-eds in a self-checkout line who were dressed to the nines for their 1:30 pm class. So you see, vanity is not the issue. It could be more that sheer apathy is the problem, but I’ll move on.
In times of sickness, all I want to do is curl up on my couch or bed and be left alone to lick my wounds. Not literally, because that’s disgusting, but you understand what I’m saying. I need the quiet, the privacy, the lack of responsibility, and the rest that comes with being left on my own. This may come across sounding unappreciative of people who want to be helpful whenever someone is sick. I know, because I am one of those people (unless you have something really gross and “catchin’”—then I’ll see you around) who wants to make sure you have enough food, medicine, pillows, and cheesy movies to get you through your time of trouble. And I guess this makes me some sort of hypocrite. I do appreciate when someone wants to help, but I cannot explain to you how much better I feel being alone. Solitude is what I use to recharge. Even when someone asks me to describe my perfect weekend or something, my ideal always involves a bath, a book, and some cooking*—not because I don’t love other people (I do!), it’s just that when it comes to recuperating, that is The Ultimate.
What is your preferred mode of recovery when you’re sick?


10 Responses for "Don’t worry, it ain’t catchin’."
i prefer to be alone for the majority of the daytime hours. at night, i like to have someone around (preferably my husband) to take care of me. i like to stay in my pajamas all day and lay on the couch.
of course, now that i have a full time grown up job, i actually have to go into work when i am sick. i can’t just always stay home.
ELIZABETH I AM EXACTLY THE SAME WAY WHEN I AM SICK. I HAVE TO BE ALONE. besides loran and my babies….that’s all i want. TIME TO BE ALONE.
dude. totally. I need the quiet, the privacy, the lack of responsibility, and the rest that comes with being left on my own.
and i think ppl sometimes are like WHAT CAN I DO. and i’m like..LEAVE ME ALONE. ILU THANKS.
srsly.
AMEN, SISTER.
I’m totally with you. If I’m sick, leave me alone! Don’t keep asking me if I’m feeling better or what I need. Though I don’t mind someone who’s willing to run to the store to get a few things for me, but please don’t expect small talk or for me to invite you to watch a movie w/me.
I agree with Leslie. I like to be alone during the day, when I can sleep, sleep and sleep. But I do love when Hubby is there to make me some lunch or dinner and bring me anything I need. Having him to take care of me when i’m sick is one of the best feelings ever! I guess because when I was a kid my dad ALWAYS took the best care of me when I was sick. He’d run to the store at night to get me 7-up, cranberry juice, medicine, etc.
Yeah, at the onset and early stages of sickness, I’m about the same… just want to be left alone to rest. As I get better though, I usually get to a point where I’m so restless that I’m ready to do anything with anybody… which I actually think helps me get over that last hump of sickness by getting my body active again
I’m the same way…I may not always express that I want to be alone…and it’s kinda hard to be alone seeing as I still live at home. But I do tend to retreat to my room, I have no desire to be with the outside world. I just wanna focus on feeling better and I already feel better being by myself.
Likewise when someone wants me to describe my ideal day it would be curling up with a book or taking a bath. Mind you I love spending time with people but I do need to take time alone to recharge my batteries once in a while.
Liz, I’m the same way you are – if I’m sick, just let me be alone until I’m feeling somewhat better. Case in point – I’ve caught both the stomach flu and a friend’s bad cold. I’m still dealing with both and have to go to classes today despite it all.
When I’m sick it is typically a cold, in which case I grind up some ginger root and mix it into a blend of green tea and whiskey. Best remedy I’ve yet to come across.
And I admire your solicitude in sickness. I think it was in Notes From The Underground that Dostoyevsky’s narrator describes the intolerable nuisance which is a sick individual whose moans and wails are not an end of themselves, but rather for the benefit of capturing the attention of those around them. I hope my wife is just like you in that regard!
I’m the same way. For the most part, I want to be left alone – COMPLETELY ALONE – so I can sleep, whine, bawl, etc. HOWEVER, those those love me must also be able to read my mind and know when I want them to check on me and bring me things.
When I had the flu last year, my husband – who has never been much of a baby-er – went out and bought me FIFTEEN cans of chicken noodle soup because he felt so bad and didn’t know what else to do. Bless his heart.
Oh and it always helps if my momma kisses me on the forehead.
I want whoever my significant other is at the time or my best friend, depending on the situation. If I’m tummy sick, though, NO ONE. Just text me, please.