
This is a part of The Real Housewives of Oklahoma’s McLinky Monday. Go on over there and join in on the fun, but don’t forget to guess which one of these is my tall tale.
(Explanation on the two truths to follow, if you’re interested.)
Back when I first posted about this topic, one of my dear readers, Laura, asked:
“What do you think is worth having the final say over, and what should you just let someone else decide for you? (In terms of flowers, food, decoration, stuff like that)”
Great question. It’s one that’s good to be thinking about ahead of time, but the answer is something you may not be sure of until you are in the middle of things.
Quick answer: It’s different for everyone. Not all brides put the same value or importance on different aspects for their wedding. You have to decide what is important to you. I covered this a little before, but I’m going to talk about some details here to help you get a better idea.
I think we can all agree on The Dress. If it is as important to you as it is to most brides, this is something you’ll be heavily involved in choosing and make the final decisions on. Personally, I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way. However, I know that women exist in this world who care very little about clothing, their wedding gown included, and can toss this responsibility over to someone who does. And not bat an eye. I know they are out there. I’ve just never met one.
Then there’s the whole “posse” method of choosing a dress. I had one with me, but they were trusted individuals who knew my taste, style, and helped me to look at the dress with the whole wedding in mind. (My mom, my dad’s mom, and Heather) A lot of wedding planners and stylists advise against bringing people along with you, but I can’t agree with that. A huge posse is a very, very bad idea. But close people that you trust and who won’t forget this is your dress? Not a problem.
A few years back a friend of mine was getting married and I was in the wedding party. I showed up at her house one day to help her with preparations and she hurriedly rushed me back into one of the bedrooms and shut the door. I started to ask her what was going on, but before the words made it out of my mouth she opened the closet.
And there it was.
Lace, frills, puffy sleeves, a tall neck, and appliqued rose buds. I’m sure it was gorgeous in 1990, but now?
“Uh…ohhh. Is that your dress?”
“Are you kidding me?! I’d never wear that!”
Well, I had hoped not…
“My mom went shopping yesterday and came home with…this.”
She eventually told her mom that she wouldn’t wear the dress and I admired her for standing up like that. I know her mom was trying to be helpful, it was just something I couldn’t relate to.
Unless you want to count that Christmas season when I finally told my mom to stop buying me clothes that I didn’t specifically ask for.
Rude? Ungrateful, you say? Leave your address and I’ll ship you all my appliqued cat sweaters from the mid- to late-90s.
All that to say every situation is different. You never know what’s going to be thrown at you or what, in the middle of wedding planning, you suddenly care about. Or stop caring about completely. Think about the things that matter to you. The list above includes things that are pretty reasonable to want one way or another.
Don’t be afraid to let go of things that don’t really matter. At the end of the day — you will be married! That’s the important thing.
If you have any particular questions you’d like answered, feel free to leave them in the comments or email me at liz @ misswisabus.com
It’s a strong cup of French roast this morning. I have never tasted a light roast that I enjoy. Very few mediums. Any coffee drinkers out there have suggestions for me?
Now I’m going to go scrub baseboards or something and live in complete denial that I go back to work the day after tomorrow.
Before we get started, would you care to see William Shatner scared to death by a dancing ape creature? Thought so.
This was one of my favorite shows to watch when I was a little kid and I enjoy it even more now. Kevin and I have been going through the collections disc by disc on Netflix and I’ve gathered a pretty good group of favorites. Do you have any?
I can’t really say much about the episodes, because you know how The Twilight Zone goes. Lots of twists and revelations toward the end of an episode that would really ruin it if you knew ahead of time!
13. On Thursday We Leave For Home
Classic episode starring James Whitmore. There’s some religious commentary in this one and a really great story about a leader, change, and fear of the unknown.
12. Will the Real Martian Please Stand Up?
Like aliens? This one is for you. It’s a bit of a mystery with a funny little twist at the end. Love it!
11. A Hundred Yards Over the Rim
This episode combines two of my favorite things — the Old West and time travel.
10. Two
In spite of the fact that I really, really don’t like Charles Bronson, this is a good one. It also stars Elizabeth Montgomery as they portray the last two humans left on earth.
9. An Occurrence at Owl Creek Bridge
Simply because it’s also one of my favorite stories by one of my favorite writers, Ambrose Bierce. Also, I think you can gain a lot of insight about LOST from this.
8. Little Girl Lost
Little girl falls through a portal to another dimension in her bedroom. What more do I need to say?
7. Nothing in the Dark
I love the premise here. An elderly woman thinks that Death is waiting outside her door. Only the man she thinks is Death is a young Robert Redford. And he delivers one of the best lines in the entire series — “You see. No shock. No engulfment. No tearing asunder. What you feared would come like an explosion is like a whisper. What you thought was the end is the beginning.”
6. Stopover in a Quiet Town
A couple wakes up and has no idea where they are. Looks like a pretty terrible bender, but just you wait…
5. The Obsolete Man
Such a good episode. Some commentary on socialism and what appears to be the direction Rod Serling may have assumed our country was going. In his closing monologue there is another wonderful quote — “Any state, any entity, any ideology that fails to recognize the worth, the dignity, the rights of man, that state is obsolete.”
4. It’s a Good Life
There’s just something about a crazy psychokinetic child that I can’t resist.
3. Nick of Time
There’s a creepy little fortune-telling machine in this one. And there’s William Shatner. One that I actually find chilling.
2. The Invaders
Little aliens! Cah-reeeep-y! I recommend watching all of this one. There is a signature crazy twist at the end.
1. The Hitch Hiker
This one really scares me a little bit. You know me and my fear of highway deviance (à la Breakdown). This fits the bill.
That’s not a real excuse for not blogging. I guess I’m just worn out. Or not taking enough vitamins (ahem, ANY) or something. Been having some weird pains in my hand that I am trying to ignore, but they show up different times throughout the day in that little muscly part of my hand at the base of my thumb. Somebody needs to block WebMD on my computer because I am exactly the kind of person who looks at it and then assumes that I’m dying.
Potassium, maybe? Too much soda, no doubt.
Anyways…
(what I’m anxious to get back to)
♥ puppy dog
♥ my recliner
♥ my morning coffee (cause let’s face it, elsewhere it’s just not the same)
♥ watering my garden
♥ checking for blossoms & fruits
♥ snow cones
♥ the sound Penny (guinea pig) makes when Kevin wakes up in the morning
♥ the smell of home
♥ mail
♥ clipping coupons (I have a problem)
♥ the rare day w/ dry heat
♥ sunlight through our french doors
♥ …and puppy dog. again.
SPOILER ALERT: Do not proceed if you haven’t seen the finale. Unless you’re my college roommate and just plain don’t care.
I loved it. It took me a night of sleep and a few clarifications and constant reassurance from my husband, but that’s where I ended up. Loving this episode as much as I loved the previous seasons. In fact, the longer I think about it, the more I like it. Sure, there are unanswered questions and I know a lot of people are really, really upset. I’ll address that later (in part two).
As for the 10 questions I thought they might answer, let’s look at how it turned out:
A few of my more in-depth reflections will be posted later today. I wanted to go ahead and get this out there, plus the rest is getting pretty long!
I have no expectations. In my quarter century of watching television I have learned better. How many shows have I enjoyed like this one? Thinking hard, I can say, “None.” I have had a deep, abiding love for Gilmore Girls since my mom introduced me to it at the beginning of high school (Rory and I were both class of 2003 high school graduates and basically hit the same milestones at the same time; I always felt that if you mashed her personality and her mother’s together you’d have a pretty good composite of my tendency to be long-winded, random, and filled with useless trivia) and I was terribly disappointed not only by the finale itself, but the last season or two of the show in general. But with that I had some expectations from the very beginning about where the show was going to go. When they changed a lead character’s personality and general decision making ability on a whim, I nearly checked out. There was some emotion to that ending for me, but the show had stopped being very important to me a few seasons before then anyway.
With LOST, not so much. Tomorrow I will be explaining my affinity for the show, but for now I will say that it was the first TV show that I got into on my own and really stuck with. I have been watching it longer than I have known my husband. That’s saying something.
There are some questions I would like them to address. The ten I list below are ones that I could imagine being answered tonight. The others I just can’t see them having the time for, or the willingness to touch with a 10-foot pole. There are plenty of examples out there of movies, TV shows, books, etc. that have left parts of themselves shrouded in mystery. Some of those have gone on to gain a cult following (think Star Wars, Twin Peaks, The X-Files, The Lord of the Rings trilogy) that thrives on what devotees can do with their imaginations, using the gaps that the writers left to theorize and create works of their own, building on the original work. I think that if everything gets wrapped up with a bow it will be doing a disservice to all the fans who have thrived on developing theories surrounding the mysteries of the show. Some things must be answered. Others, for the sake of the show’s legacy, can’t be touched. People will love this show for as long as they can talk about it. If you give them all the answers there is nothing left.
And a few they could throw in there if they have a second to spare:

