Miss Wisabus

So, my stats would indicate that about 67% of the people who land here using a search engine have some kind of question about bridesmaids. I don’t know much, but I have a little experience so I’ll share my thoughts on a few questions that have brought people here recently.

What if I don’t want my sister to be my bridesmaid?
I don’t know; I don’t have a sister. But I will say that I think it’s a pretty sticky situation. The real question is — why don’t you want your sister to be a bridesmaid? It’s understandable if you have a tight circle of female friends, but isn’t there any way you could squeeze her in there? Really, ask yourself the first question. You might get to the bottom of more issues.

How do I tell someone they were almost my bridesmaid?
Uhh…don’t?

Now, I say that, but I’ve been in a situation where I was absolutely excluded from a wedding and shocked by it. I had no real expectations about being a part of it — I didn’t assume that I would play any major part in the wedding at all. But total exclusion was NOT what I thought would happen. If it’s someone that you are close to and you are including everyone else and their dog in your ceremony, but not them…you might want to consider letting them know why there wasn’t room, if you think it might spare feelings.

Otherwise, leave it.

Did I pick the wrong bridesmaid?
Too late now, sister. You can’t un-ask.

Groom has five sisters…do they have to be bridesmaids?
No. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Unless they want to foot the bill for the dresses. And the necessary therapy after having that much estrogen cooped up in a bridal room before a wedding.